Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Where have all the good guys gone?



All throughout high school I couldn’t help but hear the complaints of many of the girls. The most common one being, “Where are all the good guys?” Honestly, I absolutely agree with this complaint; it isn’t very often that you find a genuine good guy in high school nowadays and possibly not in college either. But ladies, there are good guys out there. You just might have to pick through the bad ones to get through to the good ones, which is kind of sad I think.

 At times I become embarrassed to even be a part of the male race. It seems to me that with every year there are less and less men that respect women. This absolutely disgusts me. There are very few other things I hate more than disrespecting women. Now I know that the likely story for most high school and college guys that are disrespecting woman is because they are immature, aren’t we all at times? But immaturity shouldn’t serve as an excuse for disrespect. Disrespect won’t lead you to a good girl, it’ll lead you to a girl that doesn’t care that you disrespect her and that is wrong.
Girls, don’t act like it’s okay for guys to disrespect you, because it isn’t. All women should be treated with respect no matter what. But girls if you don’t show guys that you need to be respected for them to have you; they won’t feel the need to respect you. It’s as simple as that. It kills me to see beautiful girls with guys who completely disrespect them, and these girls are blind to what is going on. I would never disrespect a female the way that I’ve seen other guys disrespect them.

Guys, what happened to being courteous and chivalrous? It has become somewhat of a lost art in the modern world. Make it a point to open the door for her when she’s getting in the car. Take her out to dinner. And pull out her chair for her when you take her out to dinner.  Use every chance you get to show respect and chivalry to her because that will get you much further than being disrespectful. You need to show her that her opinion matters. That you listen to her when she talks, and I mean really listening not just simply hearing what she’s saying. Treat her like she is the most important person in the world, because to you she should be. And ladies if you don’t feel that way don’t stick around because it isn’t worth it in the long run.

Now I’m going to go a little sappy on you guys and talk about a romantic movie. Yes, I have been known to enjoy romantic movies. One romantic movie that I enjoy, mainly because it is my girlfriends all-time favorite movie, is The Notebook. Now for those of you who haven’t seen the movie you likely won’t understand this reference. In the movie, Noah isn’t perfect by any means, but at the end of the movie when he tells Allie to stop worrying about what everyone else wants and asks her what she wants, that is perfect. That is the perfect thing to say to her. He shows that even though he is absolutely in love with her he will let her go if that’s what she really wants. This is what she needs to hear because this is what shows her that he is perfect for her. Noah is showing her respect, respect for what she thinks is best for her. And by doing show he is showing her what is best for her, him.

 For those of you guys that read this you should definitely take a look at how you treat women. Make sure that you are respecting them, because if you don’t things are bound to turn out badly. Girls that read this, make sure that your guy is treating you like you’re special to him. Don’t let his disrespect for you go on any longer. Every woman is beautiful in their own way. And contrary to the beliefs of many, there are good guys out there. You just have to go out there and find them.

-Eric Proulx

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